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Do we really realize that each of our positive / negative thoughts or words or actions towards our own self or towards others, keeps depositing like a bank account?  Indeed, each of us has a Deeds Bank Account just like we have a money bank account.

This Law, also called “The Law of Cause and Effect”,  tells us that when we have unconstructive thoughts, words, and actions about ourselves and others (cause), we make a deposit into our “negative” bank account (effect) and vise versa for positive thoughts or actions turning out as “positive” bank account deposits.

A Life Coach Training program shares with us that peace, joy, and love, for example, come to us more easily when we have a lot more positive merits than negative ones.   It just makes sense.  And, isn’t peace, joy, and love all that we want in life?

What we sow, we reap.  As we do good things to ourselves and others, good things come back to us.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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“What I see in others is a reflection of what I see in myself.”

This law states that if we are emotionally charged when thinking about someone else’s unconstructive behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we have the very same behaviour. This is THE toughest law for people to embrace. Often, we stubbornly don’t want to see the mirror.

For years I was blaming husband John for the communication issues in our marriage until my Executive Coach pointed this law out to me. I said to her, “You mean, because I get angry at John’s lousy ability to communicate, that I, too, must be lousy at communicating?”  The silence at the end of the phone was my answer.

Sheesh. Tough pill to swallow, eh? Later that day I apologized to John and asked forgiveness for the many years I silently blamed him.

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa

The Law also states that if we are happy with someone else’s behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we too have that wonderful, positive behaviour. Celebrate that!

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Victims and Leaders look at life differently. Although everyone is doing the best they can, sometimes people do not realize that they have a choice to be either a victim or a leader. Executive Business Coach Training teaches us that we can remain bruised all our lives, stay in victim mode or heal and become the leading humble stars of tomorrow.

For example, CLI’s “Learning Concept” invites leaders to abandon the notion that we have “problem employees” or “problem managers”. Instead, we engage The Law of Attraction knowing that we attracted the “problem” in order to learn something.

Therefore, while a “problem” situation exists, we refrain from saying that people are a “problem”.  The question then becomes, “Hmmm. What is everyone learning here?” The Manager might be learning how to ‘respect’ their people more. The Employee might be learning how to have more faith in their Manager.

If we want a harmonious workplace, there is no room for blame or judgement. Only “learning”.

PS  Same goes for the home-front!

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Are you a Leader who accepts Good Enough?

If you are accepting status quo as good enough then you can bet that you are leading your team to nowhere. Challenging the current state of affairs and questioning the way “it is normally done here” attitude is the only sure way to improvement and remain competitive.

Whether you wish to improve your professional leadership at work or your personal leadership with your family, we invite you to use CLI’s phenomenal scientific brain game called “The Brain Walk®“ to identify immediate solutions to challenges that are hiding in your subconscious mind. We call these blind-spots. Got any of those? We all do!

True leaders at any rank within the organization, love themselves and their organization so much that they are committed to going inside self and finding the courage and the ability to suggest and implement change. They simply do not accept Good Enough in the workplace. Even if something is working, it can always be improved.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Leaders all over the world agree that there is no single ultimate winning formula for hiring and building the best teams. 

Team Success is like money success. Just when you figure out how to make ends meet they move the ends! Teams change, leaders change, economies change, the culture changes.

Jack Welch has an interesting 4-E (and 1- P) framework for Hiring:

• First E is Positive Energy. Look for the ability to thrive on challenges, action and loving life.
• The second E is the ability to Energize others. Can he/she energize others?
• The third E is Edge, the courage to make tough yes-no decisions. Can they make hard and unpopular decisions?
• The fourth E is Execution. Winning is all about results. (I would wonder how results-oriented they are.)
• The last P stands for Passion. Passion is what makes us drive purpose and life goals. (I would check their passion meter for selflessly serving others rather than being self-serving.)

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Animals and pets are God’s gift to human kind. They love us unconditionally. They bring us comfort, laughter, joy and companionship that no human being can replace.

Take Rajiv and Bruno, for example. They live in Delhi, India. Rajiv is a Professional Executive Coach and Bruno is Rajiv’s Co-Coach and business partner extraordinaire. Seriously! Whenever Rajiv has a challenge, and it is possible for him to take Bruno for a walk, answers to Rajiv’s challenge will flood in during the walk as an alternate approach. Interesting!

As business people, parents, or teenagers, we can invite a precious animal and/or feathered friend into our home and/or business and give them a job! Their job is to be your Co-Coach in life. Permit them to help you self-coach daily, help you generate solutions to challenges and goals and create masterful works for your business and home life. Invite them to meditate with you and become true partners in your life’s journey. Look after them as if they were your human child and they will reward you with love.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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