Tag Archives: Leadership Development

“Diamonds are Forever” but what about the Diamond in each of us?

CLI’s Diamond Concept shows us that each issue in our life is like a Diamond with many facets. For example with the Diamond Concept a client may be looking at many facets of Anger in his life and may wish to work on becoming a better communicator in these different facets of his life.

What does this actually convey? One triangle facet – He has difficulty telling his wife he loves her. Second triangle facet – He wishes his wife would hug him. Third triangle facet – His boss is really bugging him. He wishes he had the courage to tell him the truth about how he is feeling. Fourth triangle facet – He is not communicating well with himself these days; he wishes he could pay more attention to his intuition and act on it.

In other words, there are many “facets” to an issue and we simply need to self coach or take the help of CLI Power Coaches until those facets are well polished wherein we feel peaceful about the issue and have solutions. As part of CLI’s Leadership Development Course we learn that each of us has “frustas” or frustrations (all the fears, feelings, distorted thinking, irrational thoughts and so on that are blocking us from moving forward). When we eliminate the frustras in each diamond of our life, we polish the diamond and come closer to having a happy life. Making our life shine again like a beautifully polished diamond is a marvellous gift to give ourselves.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
Sign up for CLI QuickTip™ and Blog Updates at:
Coaching and Leadership International Inc.

During the last decade of major industry transformation across the world with social media and other technologies like Cloud disrupting traditional boundaries, coaching for executives has become a key differentiator for organizations. Do you know that 44% of US Executives feel it is likely that an employee or former employee will sue them?

CLI’s Certified Executive Power Coach^® Program is entirely focused on leadership skills. A CEPC Coach works with the leader on identifying their current leadership skills and strengths, works through solutions for areas  not yet core strength, and helps the client set and achieve objectives in both self-leadership and leadership of others.

Recent indepth conversations with our Executive Clients revealed something very disturbing. Most of them have at least one of what we may call a complex situation such as in-fighting, negativity, judgement, blame and varying levels of mental/emotional instability. While not all Coaches are trained in remedial work, CLI’s Senior Mind-Kinetics® Coaches have the ability to bring peace and calm back into your organization. Don’t delay.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
Sign up for CLI QuickTip™ and Blog Updates at:
Coaching and Leadership International Inc.

What a beautiful thing it would be if we could forgive ourselves and others for the burdens of perceived wrongs, guilt, judgment, shame, slights, humiliation or sense of depriving what we thought was lawfully ours?

Imagine how light our soul would be!

“Forgive Ourselves:  To be able to receive love from others.  
“Forgive Others:  To be able to give more love to them.”

With forgiveness, we tell others that we no longer hold ourselves or them guilty.  We pardon, absolve, condone, and overlook everything that is stopping us from loving our self and others more.  We, in effect, join hands with the culprit or the tormentor in a journey of Self-Transformation.  We become our own life coach.

All great Teachers invite us to be generous in forgiving ourselves first for the ‘sins’ or ‘mistakes’ made.  To err is human and to forgive is divine.  It is only by forgiving each other for the vagaries of wars that nations will, one day, no longer go to war.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
Sign up for CLI QuickTip™ and Blog Updates at:
Coaching and Leadership International Inc.

When a Leader, Parent or Coach attends CLI’s Life Coach Training program, s/he learns vital Questioning Skills. The incisive questions challenge, promote clarity, discovery or learning. Participants learn to ask questions that demonstrate active listening and an understanding of another person’s perspective, beliefs, personal strengths and abilities.

 For example, you may be sitting with an employee who is troubled, a teenager who is having trouble at school with bullying or a senior leader who simply cannot communicate well with his/her people. It is easy to dance around – skirt around the issue. Someone with excellent behavioural based coach training can, in just a few seconds, help the person find solutions by asking this powerful question,  “And so, what is really really bothering you deep down at a heart level about this situation?”

Can you imagine the response? Yes, tears may come. Eyes may light up with revelations. Or you may get a surprising hug.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
Sign up for CLI QuickTip™ and Blog Updates at:
Coaching and Leadership International Inc.

“What I see in others is a reflection of what I see in myself.”

This law states that if we are emotionally charged when thinking about someone else’s unconstructive behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we have the very same behaviour. This is THE toughest law for people to embrace. Often, we stubbornly don’t want to see the mirror.

For years I was blaming husband John for the communication issues in our marriage until my Executive Coach pointed this law out to me. I said to her, “You mean, because I get angry at John’s lousy ability to communicate, that I, too, must be lousy at communicating?”  The silence at the end of the phone was my answer.

Sheesh. Tough pill to swallow, eh? Later that day I apologized to John and asked forgiveness for the many years I silently blamed him.

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa

The Law also states that if we are happy with someone else’s behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we too have that wonderful, positive behaviour. Celebrate that!

Betska, The Guru Coach™
Sign up for CLI QuickTip™ and Blog Updates at:
Coaching and Leadership International Inc.

Are you a Leader who accepts Good Enough?

If you are accepting status quo as good enough then you can bet that you are leading your team to nowhere. Challenging the current state of affairs and questioning the way “it is normally done here” attitude is the only sure way to improvement and remain competitive.

Whether you wish to improve your professional leadership at work or your personal leadership with your family, we invite you to use CLI’s phenomenal scientific brain game called “The Brain Walk®“ to identify immediate solutions to challenges that are hiding in your subconscious mind. We call these blind-spots. Got any of those? We all do!

True leaders at any rank within the organization, love themselves and their organization so much that they are committed to going inside self and finding the courage and the ability to suggest and implement change. They simply do not accept Good Enough in the workplace. Even if something is working, it can always be improved.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
Sign up for CLI QuickTip™ and Blog Updates at:
Coaching and Leadership International Inc.