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Listening Skills – Key Competency of a Good Leader, Parent or Coach
Have you ever wondered the real difference between hearing and listening? Active listening, as we learn during CLI’s Executive Coaching Certification Program, has four parts to it taken from the Chinese symbol “To Listen”.
We listen with:
Our ears: Of course! 
Our eyes: When we ‘listen’ with our eyes, we pay attention to body language, to their eyes, and their facial features.
With Undivided Attention: How often have you walked into someone’s office and, while you are talking to them, they continue to type on their computer? This drives me crazy! Same with a life partner or a child, we demonstrate undivided attention when we turn our whole body to them and fully listen to what they are saying. This says to them, “you are important to me”.
Heart: The heart is often ignored because old school leaders think this is ‘fluffy stuff’. Nothing is more important than listening to someone’s feelings. This says, “I care about your feelings.”
Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Universal Law #9: “The Law of Love” – The Key to Human Happiness
This Universal Law is not widely understood. “Major transformation in my life can only come when I truly internalize (learn) the cause of a life challenge including emotions and then eliminate it by bringing ‘love’ to the issue.”
Example, ‘Fred’ had a tough time speaking in public. Through the PCMK™ coaching and mentoring process he learned that the reason he had trouble speaking in public was because 
he was afraid people would laugh at him. He was afraid that people wouldn’t understand his ideas and therefore he would be embarrassed. Having identified his ‘learning’, we developed brand new positive belief systems which he anchored in his subconscious mind using one of the 40 methods which bring ‘love’ by replacing the 
negative with a positive.
His new belief? “I, Fred, now speak in public with great ease and confidence because the listeners receive my ideas with excitement and deep understanding.”
Fred would have forever been afraid of speaking in public if he had not completed the ‘learning’ and shifted his subconscious beliefs.
Betska, The Guru Coach™
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