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This Universal Law is not widely understood. “Major transformation in my life can only come when I truly internalize (learn) the cause of a life challenge including emotions and then eliminate it by bringing ‘love’ to the issue.”

Example, ‘Fred’ had a tough time speaking in public. Through the PCMK™ coaching and mentoring process he learned that the reason he had trouble speaking in public was because he was afraid people would laugh at him.  He was afraid that people wouldn’t understand his ideas and therefore he would be embarrassed. Having identified his ‘learning’, we developed brand new positive belief systems which he anchored in his subconscious mind using one of the 40 methods which bring ‘love’ by replacing the negative with a positive.

His new belief? “I, Fred, now speak in public with great ease and confidence because the listeners receive my ideas with excitement and deep understanding.”

Fred would have forever been afraid of speaking in public if he had not completed the ‘learning’ and shifted his subconscious beliefs.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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“What I see in others is a reflection of what I see in myself.”

This law states that if we are emotionally charged when thinking about someone else’s unconstructive behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we have the very same behaviour. This is THE toughest law for people to embrace. Often, we stubbornly don’t want to see the mirror.

For years I was blaming husband John for the communication issues in our marriage until my Executive Coach pointed this law out to me. I said to her, “You mean, because I get angry at John’s lousy ability to communicate, that I, too, must be lousy at communicating?”  The silence at the end of the phone was my answer.

Sheesh. Tough pill to swallow, eh? Later that day I apologized to John and asked forgiveness for the many years I silently blamed him.

“If you judge people, you have no time to love them.” – Mother Teresa

The Law also states that if we are happy with someone else’s behaviour, then they are mirroring back to us that we too have that wonderful, positive behaviour. Celebrate that!

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Victims and Leaders look at life differently. Although everyone is doing the best they can, sometimes people do not realize that they have a choice to be either a victim or a leader. Executive Business Coach Training teaches us that we can remain bruised all our lives, stay in victim mode or heal and become the leading humble stars of tomorrow.

For example, CLI’s “Learning Concept” invites leaders to abandon the notion that we have “problem employees” or “problem managers”. Instead, we engage The Law of Attraction knowing that we attracted the “problem” in order to learn something.

Therefore, while a “problem” situation exists, we refrain from saying that people are a “problem”.  The question then becomes, “Hmmm. What is everyone learning here?” The Manager might be learning how to ‘respect’ their people more. The Employee might be learning how to have more faith in their Manager.

If we want a harmonious workplace, there is no room for blame or judgement. Only “learning”.

PS  Same goes for the home-front!

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Are you a Leader who accepts Good Enough?

If you are accepting status quo as good enough then you can bet that you are leading your team to nowhere. Challenging the current state of affairs and questioning the way “it is normally done here” attitude is the only sure way to improvement and remain competitive.

Whether you wish to improve your professional leadership at work or your personal leadership with your family, we invite you to use CLI’s phenomenal scientific brain game called “The Brain Walk®“ to identify immediate solutions to challenges that are hiding in your subconscious mind. We call these blind-spots. Got any of those? We all do!

True leaders at any rank within the organization, love themselves and their organization so much that they are committed to going inside self and finding the courage and the ability to suggest and implement change. They simply do not accept Good Enough in the workplace. Even if something is working, it can always be improved.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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This law says, “What I resist persists. My negative patterns repeat themselves. The seeds of gratitude, kindness, joy etc. will bring even more positives to me.”

Some people wake up to their negative patterns quite easily. Not me! God had to hit me over the head with a whole tree! I was living a life of luxury – fancy cars, house, clothes. One day, all h_ _ _ broke loose! My body started to break down. The signs were there but I chose to ignore them.

I was resisting what was best for me. Fancy stuff doesn’t bring one happiness. I thought it did. So why was I miserable? I had forgotten to nurture my spiritual self. It took a broken body to wake me up.

It healed as I reconnected with my Godself. Read how I did it in The “God” in Coaching – The Key to a Happy Life. Learn PCMK™ methodologies to get rid of your own R-E-S-I-S-T-A-N-C-E.

To whom can you show kindness today? It will come back to you.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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I was working with an Executive Coaching client today and man was she angry! She was angry at her entire team because they were not working hard enough to get a specific project done on time.

Hmmm. Any thoughts on why she ‘attracted’ this situation?

This Universal Law says, “I attract people, places and things into my life to help me grow emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and physically.”

‘Sally’ learned that she attracted the situation in order to learn some key leadership Values: Compassion, Understanding and Patience.  First, Sally needed to move into a place of Compassion and Understand that her employees must have a reason for their tardiness. Then with Patience she coached her employees using The Be a Star Executive Coaching methodology and helped everyone recognize why the employees were so far behind. Her anger disappeared and forward action took place.

Easy stuff (when we know how!).

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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