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The Law of Priority says, “I must save myself first before I can save another.”

Those of you who frequently travel by air would recall the wise counsel given by the smart flight attendant.  In case of emergency, first put the oxygen mask on yourself before you help a child or elderly person sitting next to you.

Similarly, to inspire our clients, children, employees,  friends and leaders with Peace and Hope, we must feel Peaceful and Hopeful inside of ourselves first.  The law of Priority says so!

Just as a rainbow in the sky fills us with peace and joy, we can also be a guiding light for others as we connect with our own brilliance for superior personal development.

What can you do today to put yourself first?

How can you be a guiding light for someone today?

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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CLI’s world renowned coaching certification programs rely heavily on a clear understanding of the Universal Laws of Human Behaviour.  One of the main Laws we frequently come across is the Law of Attraction which says, “We attract people, places and things into our lives to help us grow emotionally, intellectually, spiritually and physically.  Some will push our buttons.  Others will celebrate life with us.”

Decoding simply, the cells in our body  which are in charge of our positive or negative traits / behaviours have a certain frequency.  Everything has a vibration / frequency!  This cellular frequency attracts other human beings with the same cellular frequency on a given issue so that we can learn from them.

When we positively change the frequency and dynamics of our environment, we can transform our lives.  Is it time for you to look at who your friends are?  Is it time about changing your work environment for a more positive one?  Every day should be celebration – not a burden on our spirit.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Do we really realize that each of our positive / negative thoughts or words or actions towards our own self or towards others, keeps depositing like a bank account?  Indeed, each of us has a Deeds Bank Account just like we have a money bank account.

This Law, also called “The Law of Cause and Effect”,  tells us that when we have unconstructive thoughts, words, and actions about ourselves and others (cause), we make a deposit into our “negative” bank account (effect) and vise versa for positive thoughts or actions turning out as “positive” bank account deposits.

A Life Coach Training program shares with us that peace, joy, and love, for example, come to us more easily when we have a lot more positive merits than negative ones.   It just makes sense.  And, isn’t peace, joy, and love all that we want in life?

What we sow, we reap.  As we do good things to ourselves and others, good things come back to us.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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“As you give love, you receive that love back again.  As you give, you gain in understanding.”

Have you observed how truly happy people always give love unconditionally?  Mother Teresa devoted her entire life to giving empathy, compassion and care for thousands of needy around the world.  I was moved to tears to see pictures of her lifting up the sick and wounded into her arms from the streets of India.  Such a beautiful shining example of the Law of Giving.

Imagine yourself as a Leader, Executive Coach, Parent or team member inviting your colleagues and family members to more freely “share” with each other.  Maybe your garden is overflowing with cucumbers.  Or maybe your Cook in India made too many chapatis for lunch.  These can also be shared with the poor and sick.

As a Leader you could invite your colleagues to ‘share’ how they demonstrate compassion, respect and acceptance.

Our greatest teachers for this law are the animals who ‘give’ their love unconditionally.  It expands our hearts to share.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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Have you ever wondered the real difference between hearing and listening?  Active listening, as we learn during CLI’s Executive Coaching Certification Program, has four parts to it taken from the Chinese symbol “To Listen”.

We listen with:

Our ears:  Of course! 

Our eyes:  When we ‘listen’ with our eyes, we pay attention to body language, to their eyes, and their facial features.

With Undivided Attention:  How often have you walked into someone’s office and, while you are talking to them, they continue to type on their computer?  This drives me crazy!  Same with a life partner or a child, we demonstrate undivided attention when we turn our whole body to them and fully listen to what they are saying.  This says to them, “you are important to me”.

Heart:  The heart is often ignored because old school leaders think this is ‘fluffy stuff’.  Nothing is more important than listening to someone’s feelings.  This says, “I care about your feelings.”

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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When a Leader, Parent or Coach attends CLI’s Life Coach Training program, s/he learns vital Questioning Skills. The incisive questions challenge, promote clarity, discovery or learning. Participants learn to ask questions that demonstrate active listening and an understanding of another person’s perspective, beliefs, personal strengths and abilities.

 For example, you may be sitting with an employee who is troubled, a teenager who is having trouble at school with bullying or a senior leader who simply cannot communicate well with his/her people. It is easy to dance around – skirt around the issue. Someone with excellent behavioural based coach training can, in just a few seconds, help the person find solutions by asking this powerful question,  “And so, what is really really bothering you deep down at a heart level about this situation?”

Can you imagine the response? Yes, tears may come. Eyes may light up with revelations. Or you may get a surprising hug.

Betska, The Guru Coach™
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